Men are fascinating creatures. I've been trying to 'figure' them out, or at least do my best at understanding their mentality for years. I'm aware that I will never be absolute with that accomplishment since I am never going to be one myself, but I like to pat myself on the back for being pretty damn insightful regardless. I slowly built close friendships with the opposite sex as a young teen, and thankfully blossomed into a tell-it-like-it-is smart ass by the time my high school diploma was in grasp. Now, I am sure to relate to any gentlemen I meet my honesty policy; I'm going to tell you the truth whether you like it or not, because if any woman is going to be truthful about what you're doing is wrong/stupid/etc, it's going to be me. Life is too damn short to let things slide that shouldn't. Don't confuse me with being a Manhater, I've been called that more times than I can count. Even one of my greatest, longtime friends Caleb referred to me as a bitch when he first met me. My sharp tongue can get under the nerves easier than most, I get it. But if I hated men like some assume, I wouldn't bother dating, sleeping, or making friends with any of 'em.
Duh.
I write about the behaviors of men I encounter that is completely unacceptable, not the man himself, there is a difference. I am up front about what I write for a living, and it is solely the guys' choice to continue seeing me or not. All he has to do is not do any act deemed asshole worthy that I would bring to others attention/warn other women about, and he'll be solid. Surprisingly to the majority I've warned, they still haven't grasped the concept and act out as tools anyway. Not my fault. I am free to write and speak the truth as I mull through my dating journey to find my lobster (old F.R.I.E.N.D.S. refference here).
With that set in place, being around testosterone enough as I have, it has been easy to pick up on mans' greatest topic of joy that duplicates as his biggest insecurity; his penis. A guy simply can't tell one joke and let it lie, he's got to build a vocabulary world around his dick, and usually just to compete with other males around him for best junk of all. It's amusing to me that they seem to have this idea that a woman will care as much as they do. Yoko Ono once said, "I wonder why men get serious at all. They have this delicate, long thing hanging outside their bodies which goes up and down by its own will. If I were a man I would always be laughing at myself." Not to be the killjoy of every mans' hopes and dreams here, but Yoko had a point. Why bring attention to something out of your physical control? Women do not see your package the way you do at all. In order to shed some light on the subject, I'm going to address the key points that men seem to continue getting wrong or have confused beliefs in....
The Look and Size
You're all so sure that a woman wants her man to be packing a third leg in order to be satisfied. Um, no. Statistics have shown that the erect penis size of most men — 68 percent — is between 4.6 and 6 inches long. About 16 percent of men have an erect penis size longer than 6.1 inches, and of those only 2.5 percent are over 6.9 inches. The rest of the group are the shorties that every man fears being part of. So rest assured, all of you guys who insist that you're bigger than your counterpart, the odds are against you, and women already know that. It's not even an appealing part of the body to look at. Sorry, but that's the truth, even if you're wrestling with anaconda stature down there, we don't see your offering as an attractive piece at all. We enjoy what it feels like, and that's only if you know how to work with what you've got. Length to regular standards is just fine, girth can really be helpful if you come up short in that arena, and too little/too big are gravely disappointing. How can too big be disappointing? A woman doesn't want to feel like her insides are getting pummeled fight club style every time you get busy, and she sure as hell doesn't want to endure the uncomfortable gag/choking reflex when oral sex comes into play, which brings me to point number two....
Fellatio Boundaries
What happens when a guy spends countless hours over the years watching smutty porn as example of what to expect in the real world? He will bring it to the bedroom and cause quite the humorous commotion with the lady in question. Girls in porn are acting, everyone knows that, but in order for men to get off from it, they convince themselves that she means every moan and groan, and the way oral is portrayed is how all women do it. The idea is so laughable that I can't stand it! Remember what I said about your staff not being pretty? Privates on both sexes are not eye candy, so the eagerness to get our mouths all over it that the C class of Hollywood wants you to believe is a joke. Like I explained to one of my guy friends the other day who I had penis conversation with that inspired this post, a woman can truly enjoy satisfying her mans' member with her mouth, but only if the love she has for him is real. There are women who will fake it like Jenna Jameson because they think they have to in order to win over a new guy, and there are women who simply won't go there for personal hygienic reasons. Life is a crap shoot when it comes to sexual compatibility. You can't ever expect it's alright to unleash your tonsil tickler in a forceful face-fuck manner either without discussing your desire to first. That's a move way too many men make the mistake of doing. Just like....
Backdoor Surprise
The taboo talk of anal sex is bound to be addressed in most relationships. Every man has heard the positives of it being a tighter destination for his meat to travel (which is true, because it's mainly used as an exit and rarely sees entry, duh), and most will sweet talk/convince/plea with their woman to allow them to try it at least once. Women who have yet to cross into that realm have thought about it as well....just like the women who find it just as enjoyable as vaginal penetration, and the women who find it to be one of the most disgusting and painful experiences they have ever endured. Just like with the rules of fellatio, there are stipulations when it comes to dancing the chocolate cha cha. You can never just 'slip it in by accident' (why men think this lame fake excuse will always fly is beyond me), there must always be a great deal of lubrication (not spit, Vaseline, or whatever crazy sub you have on hand because you're that desperate to get it), and you've got to take it slow. My counter to being asked for taking part in this act has often been, "I will accept, as long as you take it to". Maybe it's a cheap shot since most men want to give and not receive in this arena, but one guy did oblige, so you try and tell me that it's not a big deal. It can be pleasurable, or it can be a hot, uncomfortable mess. It all comes down to who you're partaking in the act with.
Cell Phone/Online Penis Spreads
Who was the woman to first receive a mans' dick via text or online messaging and told them it was scrumptious? Why do men think that taking the time to lose the pants and give their ween its' own photo shoot in the best lighting (you hope) will have the ladies come running like dogs in heat? Do you know the vulnerable state you put yourselves in by making such a ridiculous choice? You run the risk of her not only laughing at the media received, it also give her the ability to forward Mr. Winky to anyone on her phones contact list, or on the internet to be a permanent addition to a Penis Fail forum. Yes, men love a woman who will dish out a topless picture for their own personal viewing. Boobies are fun. Why a guy will think we want the favor returned with a dickshot is confusing at best. I have never been in favor of this presumptuous act, and I am positive in saying that most, if not all women agree with me on this one. It's pervy and unnecessary at best. If you want to keep your dignity in check, refrain from making the dreaded decision of sharing your wanker with the world. All it takes is one woman appalled or scorned, and you're screwed.
There may be more on the subject I have missed out on, but these few I've shared are key. Hopefully this clears up any confusion or ideals you've had on the matter and can finally have a little bit of clarity. If there's anything that I didn't touch on the subject, I'm more than happy to add my two cents ;] - SC. & J.
